Are There Tips To Make Talking Dirty Easier?
Temptress,
I really like reading your posts, they’ve really helped me to open my mind to things I’ve never considered before, thank you! I want to try your tip about talking dirty, but I feel so awkward saying those things. Do you have any tips for making it easier?
If you’re feeling awkward about talking dirty, then it’s probably fairly safe to assume that you’re not use to talking that way. Therefore, your feelings may be due to something as simple as a feeling of being unsure that you’re “doing it right” or the awareness within yourself that such language is uncharacteristic of yourself. However, there are other factors which can contribute to feelings of awkwardness, such as the way you were raised(if you were always taught that it was “dirty” or “wrong” for example) and, likewise, if you have or have had a low opinion of dirty talk.
The best and only real way to get better at it and to feel better doing it, is to keep doing it. But, that’s not to say that there isn’t something you can do to make it easier.
While it may be true that practicing when you’re alone won’t help to take all of the awkwardness away from talking dirty, it can be a very good starting point since it can give you the opportunity to get use to saying the words and allows you time to play around with the many different ways you can group words together. And both having a better idea of what you’ll say and familiarizing yourself with the language will, naturally, help to give you a little more confidence.
Now, if you’re in the position of not only feeling awkward about not being used to doing it, but also have personal issues with either having been taught that it was wrong or you yourself had a low opinion of it, then working towards resolving these issues will dramatically improve your comfort level.
Additionally, talking dirty can be done in “levels”… You don’t have to jump straight into saying the most shocking thing if you’re not comfortable with it. Talking dirty is really more about using words to arouse your lover instead of physical contact, and it’s completely possible to do that without using any “strong” or “graphic” language.
For example, if you aren’t comfortable saying “I want to feel your cock throbbing hard against my tongue while you’re shooting your load in my mouth” you could say “I want to swallow every inch of you.” Both are hot, one is just a little less graphic than the other.
Likewise, if you aren’t comfortable with saying something like “I’m going to fuck every last drop of cum out of you” you could say “I’m going to ride every last drop of cum out of you.”
It is, however – as you’ve read, usually true that the more shocking you are, the more of an impact it will have in turning your lover on. But, there’s nothing wrong with staying at your comfort level and/or working towards using more graphic and shocking words.
And, might I add, it’s wonderful to see you opening up to try new things, I just LOVE to see that!
Remember to relax… When you’re relaxed, you can think more clearly and, therefore, you’ll be able to respond to your lover better. Thinking of what you’ll say next will come easier with a clear and relaxed mind than with one that is wracked with anxiety. So, being comfortable and relaxed is a big part of making talking dirty easier.
Other than that, it’s practice, practice, practice… And don’t make it a chore! Have FUN with it! Talking dirty should be fun for BOTH of you, not just something you do for your partner!
If you have any more questions, of course you know where to send them… 
*Kisses*
-Temptress
